Couples Therapy
Feeling stuck, disconnected, or uncertain in your relationship?
Whether you're navigating constant arguments, struggling to express your needs, questioning your compatibility, or craving more intimacy—this work is deeply vulnerable. And you deserve support that sees the full complexity of your relationship without judgment.
Offering virtual couple’s therapy in New York, New Jersey, & Florida
Working with a therapist who understands the layers of relational dynamics can help you and your partner slow down, uncover what’s really going on, and begin building a more honest, connected, and sustainable path forward—together or apart.
Understanding Couples Therapy
Relationships are complex. If you’re finding yourself questioning whether this partnership is right for you, feeling unheard or unseen by your partner, or stuck in recurring arguments—it doesn’t mean your relationship is broken. It means you’re human. Couples therapy offers a supportive space to explore whether and how the relationship can meet your needs, both now and in the future.
This type of therapy is designed for those navigating relational conflict, communication breakdowns, or disconnection around intimacy. Whether you're seeking to strengthen your relationship, considering separation, or just trying to understand what’s going wrong, therapy can help you and your partner—or you individually—gain clarity, rebuild connection, and communicate with compassion.
Who We Help
Offering Virtual Couples Counseling in New York, New Jersey, & Florida.
Couples therapy is best suited for:
Romantic partners navigating communication, intimacy, or trust issues
Individuals seeking support around gaining a partner’s buy-in in the relationship
Individuals seeking support around gaining a partner’s buy-in for seeking couple’s therapy
Queer couples and partnerships across the LGBTQ+ spectrum
Clients attending with their partner and/or individually to explore relational patterns
Our therapists are affirming of all relationship structures and offer an inclusive space for exploring diverse identities and dynamics.
Our Therapeutic Approach
At HLH Therapy, we are relational therapists who believe that healing happens through authentic connection. In addition to approaching couples counseling through relational therapy and narrative therapy, we draw utilize other evidence-based modalities to tailor support to your unique relationship. Our work is individualized, pulling from:
Relational Therapy
We begin by de-pathologizing your experience. Many clients come in believing their struggles or communication styles are “weird” or “crazy.” In therapy, we work to normalize those challenges and explore what’s behind them. You’ll be reminded: your feelings are valid, your struggles are real, and your needs matter.Narrative Therapy
Every person enters a relationship with their own stories—about love, safety, trust, and what it means to be cared for. Often, conflicts arise when those narratives clash. We help each partner explore the roots of their expectations and wounds, then work to create a shared narrative that honors both experiences.Sometimes this means recognizing when you’re projecting past pain onto your partner, and learning new language and tools—like code words or rituals—to help you pause, self-regulate, and return to connection in your relationship.
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)
For couples dealing with impulsive behaviors, CBT helps trace those reactions back to underlying thoughts and narratives. We teach skills to slow things down, identify core feelings, and express them in non-destructive ways—replacing self-sabotage with emotional clarity.Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT)
If needed, DBT supports emotional regulation and helps partners build stronger interpersonal communication skills and emotion regulation skills. These tools can be particularly helpful when emotions feel intense or overwhelming.
We work to tailor your therapy to the unique needs of your relationship—never taking a one-size-fits-all approach.
What Sessions Are Like
Offering Virtual Couples Therapy in New York, New Jersey, & Florida
Therapy sessions are held virtually and typically last 45 minutes. Most clients meet weekly, though we offer bi-weekly options depending on goals and preferences. Therapy may involve both partners, just one individual, or a mix—depending on your unique situation and comfort level.
In our work together, we often explore:
The unmet needs and lingering questions each partner brings into the relationship, such as “Is this relationship right for me?” or “Can I really be myself with this person?”
Communication breakdowns—why conversations may quickly escalate into arguments, and how to slow them down and express yourself more clearly.
The deeper stories each person holds about love, commitment, and conflict, and how these narratives were shaped by past experiences, family dynamics, and trauma.
Each partner’s attachment style and how it influences their emotional responses, needs for closeness or space, and the way they seek reassurance or express frustration.
Moments of disconnection and misunderstanding—why they happen, what they might be signaling, and how to repair with care and clarity.
How to express sexual and intimacy needs more openly and respectfully, while exploring what helps each partner feel desired, safe, and seen.
Boundaries—how to set them, communicate them, and respond when they’re crossed.
Coping strategies for when the relationship feels stuck or uncertain, including identifying whether it’s worth working through or how to navigate a possible separation with compassion and honesty.
Practical tools for de-escalating conflict in the moment, including strategies like code words, emotion regulation, and reflective listening.
The impact of external stressors—like financial concerns, parenting, or past relationship trauma—and how to stay connected through them.
We’re not here to take sides or tell you what to do. We’re here to hold space for each of you, reflect the patterns at play, and support you in rewriting the parts of your story that no longer serve your connection—or your individual wellbeing.
Our Unique Approach
We don’t believe there’s one “right” way to be in relationship—so our work isn’t about fixing you or forcing you into a mold. Instead, we help you understand the deeper patterns at play, honor each person’s truth, and build shared language and tools that actually work for your relationship. Whether you're navigating big decisions, everyday conflicts, or identity-related stressors, our approach is collaborative, nonjudgmental, and rooted in deep respect for the complexity of love and partnership.
What Clients Can Expect
In couples therapy, you can expect a supportive and nonjudgmental space where both partners feel heard, respected, and understood. Our work is collaborative—we're not here to take sides, but to help each of you slow down, get curious, and make sense of the patterns that are playing out between you. We'll help you untangle stuck dynamics, communicate your needs more clearly, and build tools that strengthen your connection (or support you in making the decisions that are right for you individually).
We work with couples of all identities, and we approach each relationship with nuance and care. You won’t be shamed for how you fight, how you love, or what you need. We also aim to destigmatize the process of seeking help, especially for those who may have been hesitant to start.
Therapy will help you move from frustration to understanding—and from survival mode to more intentional connection.
Long-Term Benefits of Maternal Mental Health Therapy
Couples who engage in this work often experience:
More effective communication and emotional expression
Greater understanding of one another’s needs
The ability to de-escalate arguments and repair after conflict
Enhanced emotional and physical intimacy
A stronger, more secure relational foundation—or clarity and peace in choosing to separate
Whether you’re navigating relationship struggles or wanting to deepen your connection, couples therapy can offer a space to rediscover your individual needs and strengthen your connection.
Special Considerations
If there is ongoing abuse in the relationship that is not being acknowledged or addressed, we will refer out to ensure the safety of all involved. Couples therapy requires a baseline of emotional and physical safety in order to be effective.
Ready to Start Therapy?
You don’t have to navigate this alone.
At HLH Therapy, our relational therapists offer virtual therapy for individuals and couples in New York, New Jersey, & Florida. We specialize in Maternal Mental Health (including infertility, IVF, pregnancy, and postpartum), Eating Disorders, Disordered Eating, Body Image, Anxiety, Depression, Trauma, and Couples Therapy.
